"the more regular a person meditates, then the more they get from their meditation and the more it benefits them in their everyday life".

Maybe you've already noticed this too?

Now, being a busy person I can really appreciate that sometimes life throws obsticles in the way. And I certainly don't give myself a hard time if it's just not possible to meditate. I just look forward to the next meditate even more!

It seems it's a really subtle distinction between what is a genuine reason why one can't meditate as much as one would like as opposed to an excuse to miss it. And the reality is that only you can tell if it's a real reason or a convenient dodge. One of the most inspiring thoughts I've heard on this was from a good friend and long time meditator Dan, who said "When I don't want to meditate, that's when I sit down and meditate".

I really get what he was saying there. You see even when a person has transcended the mind, the personality, which is still there, is certainly not beyond the mind and so can still seem to "get in the way" or to put it better "gain your attention". So it's the attitude that a person fosters within their personality that can help then not get stuck in these unhelpful habits. By developing a good pattern of regular meditation then that pattern gains momentum.

I've known some delightful and naturally gifted meditators who, before they knew it had suddenly not really meditated for months or more because they "got caught up in life". It's always a real shame because it's like watching a light slowly turn down. Once they realise what has happened they start to get back into their meditation and rediscover the stillness and peace and all the other benefits. Sadly though they have lost time they will never get back and, within creation, time certainly is never on anyone's side.

So remember, if you want to then it's a great idea to keep your meditation regular. Like healthy exercise and having fun, the more you do then the better life gets.

Keep your light shining

Mark

I generally encourage people to explore their meditation so I may say: "meditate at different times of the day, notice what is the same, notice what happens when you meditate in the morning as opposed to the evening. Meditate twice a day, do one long meditate and then several short ones... notice what's different."

It also depends on where you are in your meditation.

People who are already meditating on pure energy find it even easier to sit for many hours, whereas if you're just learning the breath meditation, then 5 mins is also great. But to turn it on it's head, I recently sat and meditated for 4 hours with one of the people I am teaching, and despite the fact she had only ever done 45 mins up till then, she found it so easy that she didn't even believe she had actually done 4 hours!

The more people relax, and enter their meditation with a sense of adventure and delight then the easier it is to simply enjoy it without referencing time. I have on a number of occassions, taken time off and sat literally for days meditating between 4 and 10 hours at a time without moving. I recently meditated for 10 days, which was an absolute pleasure. Each day I meditated between maybe 10 and 20 hours. Now years ago when I started, I wouldn't have believed I'd be saying that! My first meditate was 2mins and 13seconds! - yes I actually timed it!

Practical Meditation Advice

So here are some handy hints in reference to meditation and time:

1. Use an alarm clock. If you're meditating and you know that in 30 mins you'll need to do something then set an alarm, otherwise you'll be monitoring the time in the back of your mind and you may struggle to become as still as you could if you let the alarm take care of time.
2. The key is to be regular. it is better to do 30 mins a day than one 2 hour meditate once a week.
3. Mix things up! While regular meditation is a good habit to have, if you are always meditating at the same time, in the same place, for the same duration, then do something different, otherwise you're just becoming more unconscious in the habit and less likely to actually turn up and notice what's happening in your meditation.
4. Take care of your body! Especially when it comes to longer meditates, if your body is well looked after, you'll find it easier to sit and be comfortably still for longer periods... allowing you to enjoy the inner peace and stillness more.
5. Challenge your limits.... like my friend who went from doing 45 mins to 4 hours! She found new levels of stillness and inner love by being willing to challenge her limits :) in a nice way.

There's plenty more I could say but this time I'll stop for now :)

Enjoy your meditation!

It is more accurate to say that "a person becomes still by focussing on the stillness that is present instead of focussing on the mind which is perpetual movement".

Many people have been given well intentioned, but unhelpful advice... like "you must still the mind" or "If there are thoughts then you're doing it wrong" and naturally trying to follow this advice just creates dissapointment and holds you back. It's a shame that so many people give themselves a hard time over their mind in meditation when they don't need to... all because of a mis-interpretation.

I teach people from all kinds of backgrounds how to discover the stillness that is already present and ultimately how to discover a stillness and peace that transcends the mind.

One way of thinking about the nature of the mind and how to become still (while accepting the mind is motion) is to consider a fish tank:

"The tank contains water and fish. Fish are like thoughts and when people look at a tank they are naturally drawn to the fish because they move and have a definate form. They seldom notice the water which surrounds and supports the fish. Meditation is like learning how to notice the water, without having to remove the fish from the tank in the process!"

I hope this helps you.

Peace and Love

Well there's no single answer and it varies from time to time and also from one person to the next. What I have noticed though about the times when I (and those I teach) really get into their meditation is:

• That you really want to be there
• That you are present in the moment
• That you are supported - now this includes being rested, comfortable and happy

I've also noticed that when people meditate together that they can get stiller and more focused. One reason for this is that if they are meditating with more advanced meditators who have access to greater levels of stillness, then they tend to "fall into this stillness" as one person put it. Another reason is feeling supported by the group and motivated by the people around you. It also helps when you get good advice.

As a teacher who works with people individually and in groups it's also a great experience and honor for me to have the chance to meditate with the people I am teaching. It allows me to be more intune with them and give them advice and guidance that is really relavent to where they are.

This blog is a new feature that we have just added and I'm going to be using it to discuss meditation and share my insights and thoughts on the subject.

See you soon

Mark